Oops! I have done it again! This year my posts are very “knit one – slip one” and I decided that maybe I should scale my posts down to one every week instead of the very steep two blogs I strive for. Is this “giving up” on my initial goal? No it is just more realistic and practical. It is okay to scale down or reshape goals if they are too “out there” or difficult to maintain. Monday passed with me having to plan a packed day very carefully and at the end of it I could not manage to write a blog as well. I reminded myself that I can still write one on a Tuesday if Monday doesn’t work out out, but …Tuesday came around and I got distracted by other writing work. I made the awesome discovery that I might have almost enough poems to publish them and started working enthusiastically on organising them, deciding which themes are addressed over all and looking for appropriate quotes and a title for the collection.
Needless to say, inspiration for writing a blog went when I directed my focus towards my creative project of rereading poems and contemplating how to arrange them etc. Was I just trying to ditch my responsibility? I don’t believe so. I recalled that when I was busy learning for my finals to qualify as a life coach, I suddenly had a creative spurt and wrote a few quality poems in a very short amount of time. At the time I felt guilty about this “distraction” and I messaged my mentor coach : ” Please help me Jenni- tell me to go back to studying and stop writing poems!”
Wise Jenni came back to me and instead of trying to motivate me to apply my attention to my studies, remarked on how I need the balance of the creative work and that is why I have this sudden onset of creative genius. Reading my previous blog on always choosing greatness over just being good, you my well ask: “Michelle, was it the great thing to do to write these poems in what should have been your study time?” I believe it was.
After the creative burst of poem writing, I went back to studying hard and was rewarded by passing with distinction. I did need to balance my mind by doing some creative work while studying.
Balance is very important in every area of our life and one way to create balance is to aim for moderation. I can hear you say “but what happened to aiming for perfection?” The opposite of perfection is not moderation but mediocrity. Moderation helps us to focus by simplifying and really just keeping our attention on what really matters for us to create the identity that will help us reach our goals.
Will writing just one blog instead of two take away from my identity of aiming to be a great writer? I don’t think so. 52 Blogs a year are ample- enough to compile a book. What matters is that I consistently challenge myself to write regularly in a fixed routine.
My new, more realistic and balanced goal is to write a blog every Friday, write the one or two magazine articles required from me per month, and conscientiously work on the research and writing of my book when I am not preparing for client sessions or are in sessions with them. I am also working on the possibility of starting another writing project this year, but more on this in the future.
To create just the right balance to stay in the flow of writing, I must just focus on continuously focusing on the systems that I have set up to enable me to reach my goals for this year.
The moral of the story is thus that we will get what we continuously focus on, but only if we aim for balance in the process. Biting of more than you can chew, can lead to the flip side of abandoning your goal all together, burn out or being unbalanced in other areas of your life that will invariably have negative consequences all the way around. So until next Friday stay focused and aim for balance in all life areas.